“My Body Was At 90 Kilos But Resolve Was In Tons” – Real Mom Monika Sharma

A strong mother gives birth to a strong daughter. The vision of the #RealMom series of TCT has been to bring the spotlight on mighty mothers who have proven their mettle with a strong emotional quotient and never-give-up attitude. But today our real mom story is unique. We have a mother and her daughter – both equally strong-willed, persevering, and compassionate. When Real Mom Monika Sharma spoke to us about her weight-loss journey, the conversation bore fruit to another breathtaking motherhood tale of her mother Nirmal Sharma.

Real Mom Monika Sharma and her real mom Nirmal Sharma

After not one but seven miscarriages, at the outset of the third trimester, my mother, Nirmal Sharma, had nearly given up on her dream of having a child. But nothing could quell the urge to hold her baby.

Real Mom Monika Sharma shares her weight loss journey

When I heard the ‘tale’ of my birth, I presumed that it is nothing short of a piece of fiction.

“You didn’t move inside the womb! The doctor came out and declared that our eighth child is stillborn. The hospital walls closed in on me”, my father says.

“While I remained rooted to the spot, a nurse came out with a tiny little being. She placed the child in the crook of my elbow and said ‘beti hui hai‘ (It’s a girl).” My father remembers the doctor’s expression. “It was priceless,” he added.

I thought they brought someone else’s child to pacify me

– Nirmal Sharma

When the seventh child was also declared dead, my mother was prepared to accept fate. But when the nurse went back with a living infant, she refused to believe that it was her child. “I thought they had brought someone else’s child to pacify me,” my mother would laugh.

Mother-daughter relationship
Real mom Monika Sharma with her mother

Being a cool bean woman, her motherhood tale didn’t end with me. It went on to add two more daughters and a son. We belong to Morena, Gwalior, and I was born at a time when sons are treated as princes. But my father was a modern man. Modern, because he never had any gender biases. He was proud of his daughters.

After the loss of her husband, my mother, an educated woman whose veins were namesake lines, didn’t shed a tear. Instead, she emerged as the pillar for her bereft children – the ones who would break down every single day.

My water broke at 24 weeks:

The first few months of marriage is blissful for most couples. In my case, it was double ecstasy coupled with uncertainty. On the 28th day of my journey of being a wife, I took the baby steps of being a mother but was hardly prepared. It took me a few months to imbibe the fact that I was pregnant. The next few months were a haze for me. But the real shock was yet to come when my water broke. I was uncertain about how to manage the situation as my baby was just 24 weeks old. The doctor advised complete rest but I was still working.

Mother and daughter
Real Mom Monika Sharma playing with daughter

I could not afford to leave my job, hence I continued working from home. First pregnancy, an unplanned one at that, and a history of miscarriages in the family: it was unsettling me. Lying on the bed, gazing at my uncertain future, I knew that my life would no longer be the same. Although we educate ourselves, we are never prepared enough for a delivery — more so, a premature one. When Paavni came into my life, everything changed irreversibly.

Separating from my three-month-old daughter

With a preponed maternity leave, I had three months left, postpartum, to rejoin. I was working in Gurgaon, nearly three hundred kilometers from my place. The daily commute and taking my daughter along weren’t the options I could choose. Hence I had to have a long-distance mother and daughter relationship. It affected me badly. Somehow the thought that I am being unfair to my daughter started eating me from inside. To add to the travail, we had odd working hours.

Monika Sharma with family
Real Mom Monika Sharma with her family

Food became an easy way to quench hunger. I forgot how to taste my food. Instead, I gobbled up whatever I could access easily. Junk food became my daily diet and I knew that I was pushing myself towards lifestyle diseases.

Monica Sharma

When I hit 90 :

Like every woman, I gained weight postpartum but in our area, women have to move after delivery let alone do post-pregnancy exercise. I too did not see the relevance of post-pregnancy exercise. I started growing massively postpartum. My life was so mechanized that by the time I realized it, I was 90 kg.

My body was massive and my legs couldn’t carry that weight. I couldn’t climb steps, my thyroid levels were dangerously high, and palpitations became a part of my life – I was sinking.

Monika shares her experience when she was obese.

My doctor told me outright that I had to reduce my weight to lead a normal life. The trauma of not being with my daughter at her tender age had already saddled me and this was the decisive moment.

I rewound myself to the past three and a half years. Was this worth it? Shall I continue like this? When the words like Moti(fat) and Bhens (buffalo) became my synonyms, anyone could get back at me and break my soul by body shaming. I still cannot forget the contemptuous stares of people when they looked at my husband and back at me.

Real mom Monika Sharma after her exercise
Real mom Monika Sharma after her exercise

I was earning enough but my health and family at large were deteriorating. Finally, I put my foot down and quit the job after three and a half years. My greatest gain is that I could be with my daughter and build a strong mother-daughter relationship and be the real mom for my girl. Now that I am back to my daughter, with adequate time for myself, I decided to work on my soaring body weight.

If you have the resolve, it is not difficult to find half an hour for yourself

Monika Sharma

90 to 61 – Weightloss journey of Real mom Monika Sharma

I started doing weight loss exercises at home. My bodyweight deterred the workouts as my stamina was nil. I couldn’t do any heavyweight loss exercise at home other than basic cardio and couldn’t afford to go to a gym or any fitness institutes. I knew sweet Fanny Adams about workouts. Left on my own, following fitness instructors was the best bet for me. What started as a basic warm-up became a routine in my life.

Slowly but steadily with basic weight loss exercises at home, my weight started coming down. When we start losing weight at some point we reach stagnancy. I reached the point after a year and a half when I was 72 Kg. I couldn’t bring down the weight after the point as I was doing active workouts only. Now it was time for the passive workout but how? I could not go to any fitness centers!

2020 – The year with the fluctuating graph

To intensify my predicament, my father was diagnosed with cancer in 2018. For two years he struggled with the proliferating cells and it was breaking me to see his pain. My weight loss exercise at home took a backseat as I could not think of anything but my father. My mother used to take him for chemotherapy even during the blood-chilling winters despite being weak herself. None of it sufficed as we lost him in 2020 January.

Monika Sharma with her father
Real Mom Monika Sharma with her father

When I lost my father, I thought it was the end but my mother gave me strength. I still can’t decipher how she gathered the power to pacify us when she was in deep pain. She, being a real mom, gave a new meaning to motherhood and the mother-daughter relationship at large, by being a father too. Slowly I was recuperating, when the lockdown happened. Strangely as it seems, staying back home exclusively was a welcome change for me.

The final lap

Real mom Monika Sharma's weightloss
Real mom Monika Sharma’s weightloss

I bought weights and with the help of a few good-hearted fitness trainers who shared authentic information online, I started my weight loss exercises at home. Lack of post-pregnancy exercise made it difficult to burn the baby fat but I couldn’t give up.

Within 6 months I lost 11 kg. Now I am 61 kg, feeling light and confident about myself. Now I share my story of weight loss exercises at home. My journey was never easy.

When I started weight training, I spent days burning muscles. With no household help, I was struggling but probably my father gave me the strength to go on and my husband helped me immensely.

To all women out there, if you don’t have access to fitness training, don’t lose heart. With the right guidance, you can do weight loss exercises at home and keep your body weight in check.

Monika Sharma

We make many wrong decisions but, trust me, never regret your past. It is these experiences that make us stronger. Life is full of learning. We should be aware of the fact that what is today may not be there tomorrow. We should not be disappointed, but rather work on ourselves. It is important to know that we can still be what we were before. Had I not taken that decision and persevered with it, I wouldn’t have been Real Mom Monika Sharma today.

Author: Vaishali Sudan Sharma

Mom blogger, books lover, fan of new wave cinema, fond of jazz, lounge and classical music. Love to cook Indian & Italian cuisine.

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57 thoughts on ““My Body Was At 90 Kilos But Resolve Was In Tons” – Real Mom Monika Sharma”

  1. Wow i had goosebumps reading your journey! You and your mom are inspiring in their own ways, but definitely stands up as an epitome of strength and determination for all ! Thankyou for sharing your story!

  2. Wow i had goosebumps reading your journey! You and your mom are inspiring in their own ways, but definitely stands up as an epitome of strength and determination for all ! Thankyou for sharing your story!

  3. No words actually! I would call Monika a strong women as childbirth is no joke but a sacrifice of pain for the creation of a family! Ups and downs are there but if you are loved by your family, nothing is impossible!

  4. Your story is indeed inspirational. It is an apt example of what a human will can achieve inspite of the odds . Kudos to you. God bless

  5. Monika! Your journey is super inspiring. Weight loss of 11kgs is too good. Very healthy weight loss journey 👍 in glad you didn’t do any fad diets!

  6. Reading at Your story gave me goosebumps so touching and inspirational. And I strongly believe mother’s are a super hero/women. They can do and conquer the thing that is beyond imagination.

  7. really feel so gladd to know your weight transformation you are an inspiration for us well done 👍😍

  8. Woww this is so sad but on the other hand it is very powerful and inspiring message to everyone who struggle to loss weight! You are so determined and you are super mom as well!

  9. Oh wow what an overwhelming story you have. It must of been very hard times for your parents to go through miscarriage. Your weight loss journey is very inspirational I love it good on you girl. 🥰👏

  10. You are an inspiration, your journey was full of ups and downs but you never lose the hope, and finally you achieve it. It’s great to know about you .

  11. Hi Monika,
    I am so inspired by your journey. I have just started my fitness journey 3 months ago. I lost a good 5kgs till now and I am so happy. I m on weight training now and it feels amazing. I am so glad that we moms are realising that our health is important too. That makes us love ourselves a lil more than before. I m glad to know you and really happy to know your journey too! Your are a strong woman and so is your mom! Thank you champa tree for writing this ❤️

  12. Getting to know about a person like Monica is simply amazing..her journey is very inspiring and motivating and she proves that nothing is impossible to achieve if we work hard and stay focused..

  13. Such an inspiring story.. Monika is an inspiration to so many females who give up
    On their dreams. Very beautifully penned too👍🏻

  14. You are Such An inspiration Dear Monika …. 💖💖 loved to know your struggle life … But now congratulations to you …

  15. Such an inspiring story my dear…u are truly a super mom Monika & ur life story is overwhelming & inspiring at the same time…!!!! More power to you❤️❤️❤️❤️

  16. Such an inspiring story my dear…u are truly a super mom Monika & ur life story is overwhelming & inspiring at the same time…!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  17. This article brought tears in my eyes Monika you and your mom are super women your journey is inspiring 💕

  18. Wow 😮.90 to 61. Monika you are an inspiration to everyone. My sis has this weight issues. Wishing she can also put off like you .may God give you more success. Ameen

    1. You penned it so well dear. You are a true inspiration, amazing story…!! Definitely gonna inspire many

  19. Love to know about you monika… really you are an inspiration…love to connect with you❤️

  20. I have no words after reading this. You’re an complete inspiration. I can feel your energy, motivation and feelings behind every word. We all need such realistic stories to improvise ourselves. You have no idea how much I.loved it. Stay fit, stay courageous. More power and love on your way 😊❤

  21. It is always so good to read about women and mothers. The journey of a mom is very emotional, motivational and it’s a super story which will motivate a ton of others…

  22. No words iam speechless after reading this 👏👏👏 clapping is the only option for u.. iske aage kuch words important nahi h ❤️

  23. 💚🐰🎂🎉 Thank you for being my inspiration and motivation everyday. I wish you all the success in the world. 💚🐰🎂🎉

  24. Your story is sooo inspirational and motivating hun. What u have achieved is incredible and hats off to your dedication for that 💕

  25. Your story made my heart melt , such an inspirational story of a true mom, you are a fighter and yes a winner, may God give you more power and you shine always, keep motivating us dear 💝😘

  26. This is so motivational and inspiring! You are a great mother! And a true definition of MOTHER!

  27. Monika’ journey is so inspiring and how motivated and dedicated she is. It really inspires me and also it is a honour for me to know about her journey. Such a strong woman she is.

  28. This is such an inspiring story Monika. I truly believe if we resolve to do something we can surely find a way to do it.

  29. I have never seen such an amazing transformation ❤️ Your motherhood journey is so emotional as well as inspiring. More power and love to you. You are a very strong woman.

  30. Such an Inspiring story. You have achieved a huge thing in life after struggle, heartbreak. You are seriously real mom. Love to connect with you❤.

  31. Monika……Ur journey motivates many here to think for themselves. We never thought for our well being sometimes ,in this hushy life . But…this will truly helps in embarking the initial steps .👍🏻

  32. Monika journey is an inspiration for many mom’s that give up on their dreams as they get married. Her journey from fat to fit is highly inspiring. She is a true good human being. I wish her best in future endeavours.

  33. You are such an inspiration Monika! Your struggle is heartbreaking and courageous at the same time! You are indeed a real Mom Monika and it has been a privelege getting to know you!