Dear Mother, You Don’t Stop?!

Dear Mother, becoming a parent can be not a bit but extremely overwhelming, especially when advice pours in from four directions. Most times we tend to listen to those more who give us the confidence we need to embrace our new designation…those sleepless nights, cost of diapers, baby burps, struggles of the toddler who won’t put on weight, or a preschooler fussing over food, not staying in their bed, extra classes, extra pocket money…All-in-all, the struggle is never-ending.

Dear Mother and son

Having to juggle work and baby-work, to make your child’s need above yours, to pick him up from school or an after the school practice session. And when he feels unwell, take off from work. Helping him with his homework, a messy house, the never-ending piles and piles of laundry, packing tiffin, fixing he snack time.

Don’t even get me started on the cost. The expense!!

Dear Mother, look at him:

You watch as his eyes are filled with joy on Diwali….and that’s it! You forget the struggle of lighting up the house with 1000 mini bulbs. You just sit there in the night, feeling warm. Feeling loved, trying to soak in the magic of those moments.

You rush to dance, sports, skate, etcetera practices, you become your child’s best chauffeur service. You upload their homework on the cold, tired night in the pandemic days, and wake up to an equally cold morning where the child needs to collect his energies online…and you carry a load of parenthood in your car, the grocery store, to the park, your workplace, even the washroom of that friend you have visited after years! You don’t S.T.O.P!

A boy holding a flower

You don’t S.T.O.P:

The days get busier, the long nights become nippier and with time, seasons change uninterestedly. Like they don’t care. You don’t S.T.O.P!

In no time that boy who fussed over food and later over the pocket money sends you emails and WhatsApp messages, letting you know he is doing okay. Wait! You didn’t stop and the month turned into years. 15-18 years – give-or-take.

You miss the little boy. That beautiful face that stole your time. The one who never lets you do enough reading! Who would crawl up next to you in bed and cuddle up to watch anything…You miss him!

It’s so quiet. The 1000 bulbs of Diwali light-up every year, but the joy, it’s gone missing. No one to chauffeur around, no one to hear you read the same story for the nth time!

And for once you look around and S.T.OP. You begin to feel guilty. The mom’s guilt doesn’t escape the relentless grip.

You know for once and now that those seasons did change magically. It’s just that you don’t pause enough to look around. You didn’t S.T.O.P!

You ask yourself so many questions…

Did you teach them the right lessons?
Did you read them enough books as a child?
Spend enough time playing with them?
How many school parties did you have to miss?
Do they really know how much you love them?
What could I have done better as a parent?

…..When it’s time for them to go, it all hits you like a ton of bricks.

And all you can do is pray….hope….and trust that God will protect them as they start to make their way into the world alone.

Parenting is by far the most amazing experience of your life….that at times leaves you exhilarated….while others leave you heartbroken.

But one thing is certain…’s never enough time…

So for all the parents with young children…whose days are spent trying to figure out how to make it through the madness…
Exhausted day in and day out…

Soak. It. All. In.

Because one day….all those crazy days full of cartoons, snuggles, sleep overs, Christmas morning magic, ballgames, practices and late night dinners…

All come to an end.

And you’re left hoping that you did enough right, so that when they spread their wings….

They’ll fly…”

Credit to the Amazing Author: @MistyBrewerLee

Misty Brewer Lee has two children in their 20s…She has captured every single step of her motherhood journey here.

Author: Vaishali Sudan Sharma

Mom blogger, books lover, fan of new wave cinema, fond of jazz, lounge and classical music. Love to cook Indian & Italian cuisine.

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29 thoughts on “Dear Mother, You Don’t Stop?!”

  1. I don’t have any kid, I’m not married yet. But I can feel this article. This made me emotional. You pen down all the emotions so beautifully.

  2. Such a heart-warming post. After reading it, the first question that pops in your mind. Am I doing my best and giving them the quality of time? With a blink of an eye, they are going to be 5yr old twins.

  3. That’s the dilemma of a mother is to enjoy the moment or prepare for the next. The author has captured the essence of motherhood very well and given us a piece of advice.

  4. So heart touching ! Totally totally relate this . After my child.. I felt like m in depression or may be I was . You have penned down so beautifully dear . The saddest part is this will end soon .. and they will grow so fast and forget everything.

  5. The true story of every mother. You have penned down the feelings of a mother so beautifully.

  6. This is a very nice post that captures the essence of motherhood. To sum up, motherhood is an opportunity to make memories that will last a lifetime.

  7. I have two kids 7 and 4 yrs old and I already feel they are growing out of me. They are becoming more and more independent and I dread the day they will be all out and about and not need me to be around to take care of them. I wish for them to stay as my little babies for ever as I dream of them to grow up and be successful as well.

  8. Such a heart touching post a mother’s role is always priceless the love the care she shows is just amazing even I have seen much to do for my daughter.. Before she starts becoming big

  9. This is such a beautiful post. You penned down every mother’s feelings! Every struggle seems worth it if you see a smile on your child’s face

  10. Such a touching post. I could visualise each sentence as if it were from my very own life, that’s the thing about motherhood❤️❤️❤️❤️

  11. It got me emotional, my son is just 5 years old but I often get such thoughts that soon all this will be over and I will be missing these moments. I try to make the best of each day so that I never get that feeling that I didn’t do enough. This is such a lovely post, I am sure all the mothers could relate to it very well.

  12. The role and the contributions of mothers remained the same since ages… they know only one thing… to bring and give their child the best in what so ever way they can. Unconditional love for the child is what makes a mother different from others

  13. Oh my, this post was an emotional rollercoaster. I’m thinking of so many things right now that I must do before my kids fly the nest. I’m not sure if I’ve done enough!

  14. Aww..I just loved the each and every line of this post. and recently I had felt the same emotion. my elder one is in teen age and I had already started the feeling that time is flying so fast. I want to spend more and more time with her to make beautiful memories that I will cherish later through out my life.

  15. this was so heart touching .. my son is 4 now and it feels time just has flyed.. I do have made days and I burst out on him but your post act as a reminder they will be free birds and we will always feel did we give enough ..lovely post

    1. It is really heart touching , though I am not a mother but all these lines are really touching. Mother’s love is priceless and I just want to spend all my days with my family. I love her and she is the most precious thing in my life.