by Aarti Kapur Singh
Take a look at 8 crazy pregnancy facts every man should know!
There is a difference between a pregnant woman and a pregnant man. Pregnant Man? Yes, there is such a creature. While a woman expecting is harboring life and is probably confused and going through several changes, a man feels a bit of the same, but only gets to be called “papa”. This is unless of course he knows exactly how to handle the more active partner in the endeavor!
Just so there are no foot-in-the-mouth or boo-boo moments, here are top 8 things every man should know about first sign of pregnancy to the stuff her pregnant wife goes through at different trimesters of pregnancy:
1. She could want ANYTHING to eat, at ANYTIME:
Everyone knows food is important to pregnant women. But the time is of the essence. The bottom line is, when she says she’s hungry, she means it. That, and also, the craving for specific foods. I have woken up my man at midnight once to get me orange bar. Thankfully, and I must say, very sweetly, he complied.
2. Don’t make fun of what she wants to eat:
You may have heard of the weird things women crave for while pregnant. Well the news is that most of what you have heard is true. And, to top that, there is scientific research available that links cravings with nutritional deficiencies. The Western approach to pregnancy cravings leans heavily on the idea of the “wisdom of the body.” Cravings are thought to be a Darwinian mechanism to meet the body’s demand for certain nutrients. So when the husband was amazed at my gobbling green chillies soaked in lemon juice and salt, my gynecologist calmed his nerves that it was probably to do with my body’s need for more sodium because of my increased blood volume and mild Vitamin C deficiency. This is also the reason why women prefer pickles or sour-tasting foods – but then, if your woman craves sugar, it is absolutely OKAY! Just don’t pick on her for what she eats!
3. Don’t make her conscious of how big she is getting:
Observation – thus far, we have only discussed food and eating. That is because some of the food – as well as her hormones – will cause her to put on weight. It is natural. What the men should watch, however, is themselves in the mirror every day because if I know right, they will not think twice about digging into food! The wife will have a reason – that she is carrying a baby – for putting on the extra pounds. What will a man’s excuse be??
4. Mood swings are real:
The good news is: the baby is on its way. The bad news? There wasn’t enough room for the baby AND coping with life and its stresses. Be prepared. Empathize. Be a patient ear. Or else it will only spiral into more mood swings. You’ve been warned. No woman can ever fight with the feeling of not letting the world see how she feels during pregnancy (NOT even a woman who claims to have a STRONG WILL POWER!)
5. Prepare to be replaced by a pillow:
Think about it – if you are bloated, have overeaten, are having a terrible acid reflux or are generally cranky, do you like being held tightly or cuddled? So, the truth is that to a pregnant woman– a malleable soft pillow is more comforting to her than your body. She is sore and very uncomfortable. Besides, if you are in the habit of flailing your limbs while you sleep, you had better move to another room or a couch.
6. She needs help doing basic chores:
7. You can’t complain:
You can’t talk about any of the things listed here with your pregnant wife. She’s pregnant. She’s carrying your child and that is her trump card!! If it is unfair, try imagining yourself in her shoes, with that belly and feeling how she does! To put it crudely, she is growing something the size of a watermelon that eventually has to be pushed out an opening the size of a lemon. You actually think you ought to complain?!
8. She will sleep. A lot:
When a woman is carrying life inside of her, her own body is growing, stretching and changing. Let her rest. She won’t get much of it after the baby is born.
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