You must have heard of Gen Y, Gen X, and Gen Z, but ever heard of Gen C-sec (aka Cesarean generation)? Well, I guess not. It’s because I just invented this term right now. My baby happens to belong to the generation of C-sec. I’m guessing that if you are a new mother reading this then your baby might be of the same generation.
What is a Cesarean?
I mean, I know that you know that it is a surgical process wherein 2 or more slits are made in the abdomen and uterus of a mother to get the baby out. Funny as it may sound but when my baby was on his way out and I was undergoing a Cesarean operation, I could almost feel like a kangaroo. A small pocket like patch being made on my lower tummy and then I felt a squirm, my gynec had a bit of a struggle locating the baby.
Exactly after 5 minutes, I heard a feeble cry. My little one was out. All of 15 minutes, while my husband (I call him Ace) anxiously waiting outside, frantic and praying to god, lord, and the almighty. He thought I was lying there, in pain, screaming and getting miserable. What he didn’t know was that the entire procedure for most of the mothers is like getting a tetanus injection. There is still some pain involved while getting a shot of T, and I felt absolutely nothing during my C-sec.
Expectations and reality:
When I was expecting, my relatives (read women) would often ask a lot of questions. They were all concerned about my health, baby’s health. Nearly most of those conversations would end up with ‘one last question’ (and probably the most IMPORTANT one for their knowledge) ‘has the doctor indicated whether it’s a C-sec?’ I would wonder why at all they are asking. Not that I don’t like to discuss such things and not that I consider pregnancy to be a ‘very’ private affair.
On the contrary, I am an extremely forthcoming person who loves to chat about almost anything and everything under the roof. But, I guess, it’s just that women who have had normal deliveries are very proud of the fact that they have undergone ‘real pains’. Well, yes, indeed you have gone through ‘real pains’ but believe you me, no woman prefers a cut or two on her body for the sake of kicks.
However, if she is told (and almost in most of the cases, it is at the last minute) that there is a risk to her baby or that the baby’s heartbeat is dipping.. At that very moment, one isn’t left with a choice. No woman or her man, no mother, and her husband would like to risk their baby’s life at the cost of ‘real pains’. Having said that, I would also like to tell you that Cesarean is not always the last resort.
The Gen-C Section(Cesarean generation):
In countries such as India, Cesarean-section is used more frequently than needed. These days, doctors have been recommending the procedure on a proactive basis. They underestimate our will to take pains. For some reason, in recent times, C-sec delivery has become a more convenient option. I had mine because of failed labor induction followed by fetal distress. For my friend, it was a clear case of a breech birth situation. In her friend’s case, there was an issue of prolonged labor and in her friend’s case, macrosomia. Or, should I say that this is what we were told? Hmmm, well, I still feel that I could have waited a bit longer. I mean, what’s the hurry of delivering on or before the due date?
Babys who are late:
Several studies suggest that the first baby usually takes longer than the due date.
If I was to carry on till the 40th or the 41st week, what could have happened?
Nothing at all!
These days, there are regular scans and check-ups done to monitor the mother’s and baby’s health.
What if I had experienced a huge gush of fluid going all over the floor on the exact due date? What if I had undergone pains, like those ‘real pains’ and my little kangaroo didn’t have to be brought out but rather would have popped out? And what if Ace (who would have been my birth partner) had an opportunity to hold my hands at the time of labor?
I just don’t know what could have happened if I were to deliver normally? I don’t know if one Cesarean did any damage and I don’t know what all repercussions it will have on my body later.
All that is well that ends well:
I am not holding any grudges against my gynecologist. She is a doctor after all. She did what she thought was right at that time.
What matters is the end result. Holding my baby for the first time, my flesh, my blood. Watching him latch on to me, feeling a piece of myself in him, entire him inside me. I don’t care whether he belongs to Gen X, Y, Z, or C-sec. I am hoping that if you are a new mother reading this then you shouldn’t bother much either. The Cesarean generation is not delivered naturally but there is nothing surgical about raising them to become finer humans.
So what if the pains were not real? When your heart skips a beat for your baby’s smile, now there is something so REAL about that!
Originally posted at Indian Moms Connect