by February 18, 2015 updated on
Guest blogger Anamika Agnihotri, founder of Bespectacled Mother shares a wonderful post on how certain parenting practices which are followed over generations can fail miserably and prove out to be unworthy..
There are some common parenting practices followed in nearly every home. These practices are supported by the premises that they have been followed over generations and hence now these form the invincible part of the parents’ DNA. Based on my observations in my family and around, I have come up with 5 such practices which the parents exercise with their children and how they fall flat on their face.
1. Tell your child more than frequently-
“Be careful, Be careful”
“Watch your steps”
“Stay away or you will hurt yourself“
Then one fine day, you are bringing out a high stool into the house to get down something very important from the highest cabinet. You begin to climb the stool’s steps. By this time your child notices the event and gets concerned about your safety. He has learnt from his experience to warn repeatedly……
“Dad/Mom, be careful be careful. I am telling you. You will fall down and hurt yourself”
2. Tell your child–“Are you a bad boy? You are throwing your toys all around”
“Are you a bad boy? You keep screaming throughout the day”
“You are not finishing your meal, see you are being a bad boy”
“Don’t be a bad boy, be good and behave”
At the next available prompt, very keenly, you attempt to play the ‘Bad Boy’ card again and you get to hear…..what –
“Yes, I am a bad boy”
3. You vent out your frustrations (parental or otherwise) by yelling out aloud on your child, pitching higher than the voice of the child.
Very soon, there will be a family competition of ‘Who screams the loudest to outdo the opponent?’
4. You are an angelic parent (without any doubt).
But when the child’s tantrum goes out of control affecting your head, then without even your knowing it your hand gets propelled causing a thrust and a shock. And, the tantrum stops. You might feel sorry or you might feel ‘Wow!, this works’.
The next time you are at a public gathering, busy socialising and somewhat ignoring your child. You unexpectedly get a shot across your face, your cheek turns crimson and you look around into the eyes of the little perpetrator.
5. You have guests in your house. You have set out a stage for a performance to be delivered by your child about his newly acquired knowledge of aquatic animals. You have put high stakes on the performance as if it is the final match of FIFA World Cup and all the applause which your child would garner through his delivery would get routed to your bank account of pride.
The rock star appears on the stage, gets the brief from you, nods his head in a no and leaves.
Immediately, you go bankrupt on your pride and popularity and you are left alone to do the clean up of the mess of the event. “Thank God,” you would think ” I did not charge any tickets for the show”.
Well, as much as we can laugh over this, we should give it a thought about changing our DNA structures and adjusting our parenting practices because the Children Are Really Getting Smarter.
Anamika, founder of The Bespectacled Mother is a Stay-at-Home-Mom of a 3-year old son, Dhruv. After having lived in UK for a while, she has now shifted her base to Bangalore, India. Her blog is an attempt to put together her parenting experience and stories with an infusion of humor.
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