Dear Son, There is a long long way to go for something like this. I mean- to read a letter that is not for you, and instead for your future partner. But, time passes in a blink of an eye. So, I decided to write a few things for our lovely daughter in law. Don’t get confused! I am not hiding any secret from you 😉
By daughter, I mean your future wife. Son, I am not the best judge of characters or relationships, but my experience tells me a bit about how to have a good relationship with a daughter in law.
3 Things I Want To Tell My Future Daughter In Law:
1. I shall Respect you
You are today’s educated, enterprising woman with a mind and a heart of your own. I might not have seen your initial journey, but I know for a fact that you would have sacrificed a lot for this marriage. And because I have been there, I understand. That’s why and for a lot of other reasons, I respect you. Family relationships are based on RESPECT. I respect you for your hard work, for your perseverance, for your sacrifice and your decision of taking up this new role without any terms or conditions! I admire your self-confidence, your spirit, your capacity of self-dependency, and I shall be way too proud of your financial independence. You are giving up the best time of your life for my son. I RESPECT you for that!
2. I Shall Never Interfere
I know you would have probably heard this before… Maybe your own parents might have told you the same thing while you were growing up. Chances are that they would have broken all their promises and PROBABLY got a bit more involved in your life. But, mark my words, I shall NEVER interfere. However, that doesn’t mean that if my son is misbehaving with you, I would turn a blind eye. Of course NOT! But To put this in clear words, all I am saying is that I want to resist being “pokey”, “inquisitive” or “all up in your business”. You are a married couple and that’s a family. I wouldn’t want to act like a possessive mother who would come looking for her son’s time and again. I must tell you right now that it’s hard. But, it’s not difficult to resist. I am going to RESPECT your privacy and with our mutual agreement, we will create as well as maintain healthy boundaries in place. This is what makes a good relationship. Here is a BIG promise I want to make. I will always try to only offer advice when you ask for it.
I shall Support you Over my Son
I know my child way too well. Just as you would know yours. I know what it exactly took to raising a child like this one, snd that’s why I want you to know that in hard times when you are both in a difficult mood and argue over something as trivial or as consequential, remember, my support would go to you. Couples fight, especially in a healthy relationship, but I am going to make sure that it stays healthy. We all make mistakes. I shall never ever let him insult you (at least not in front of me). You are a dignified human! Your pride is in his hands and my eyes. So, I shall openly support you even if he comes telling me that it’s not working out. You will be my favorite person. Just a request- that you don’t ever break the trust and faith I have in you.
Dear daughter, please remember that I will pray for you, your health, happiness, and everything related to you. I understand that for a happy and loving family, it is important for a woman to stay content. Dear daughter. I pray that you grow in wisdom and knowledge. My blessing shall always be with you. When the time is rough and you have nothing to look forward to. When you are in a state of dilemma or don’t know how to save your relationship, I will pray hard that you stay strong. God has an amazing plan for you. Please remember that I am praying the very same prayers for you as for my son.
For now, I am eagerly waiting for the day when he comes and tells me about you. The day when I see you for the first time, the love my son has for you..his eyes gleaming with joy. The day when he brings you home… That day, my heart will welcome you with delight, my arms will wrap around you with warmth and my god will shower blessings on you.
I can’t wait to see you soon,
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17 thoughts on “3 Unbelievable Things I Want To Tell My Future, Daughter, In Law”
This one is a little too biased towards the daughter in law which is not only unusual but also gives a sense of deceptive writing and a sarcastic outlook.
Dear Sir mam…whatever is written in this article is absolutely right. I hav a very good relationship with my daughter in law. They are married for a year now. She is more than a daughter to me. They both are in Auckland NZ…and im happy to inform u that just now i got my visa approved. Im leaving for NZ on friday. We both love and respect each other. I speak to Rachana more than I speak to my son Swaraj.
Thanks Kalpana-ji for your kind words. It feels really nice to know that there are mother-in-laws like you out there who love their DILs more than their own sons. Do share this post with your friends and most-importantly, let your DIL know how much you care for her.
Amazing post. Wish more MILs thought this way!
Sometimes a daughter-in-law has a great mother-in-law, but, the daughter-in-law has no respect, isn’t nice to her husband’s family. Family was great, but the daughter-in-law is quite mean, breaks family relationships, causes problems and controls her husband so tightly, he never seems happy like before. Tunnel vision here, to support over your son, to say she is giving up the best time of her life for your son, what about what your son gives up, etc, etc. You sound like a daughter-in-law writing this instead of a mother because it is very odd to see one side and that not being your son even.
Sorry!? Didn’t get you..
This is the best post i have seen. I am damn sure, the lady who as written this is not just a good mother she is indeed a good woman. I wish i had mother in law like you
This is such a beautiful and positive read (almost cried reading this). Speaks a lot about how Wise and Beautiful you, as a woman are. Lucky is your To-Be-Daughter-in-Law. Lots of love and I hope your DIL is going to be as sweet as you! <3 <3
Very nice written by one of mother in law
very lucky girl
It felt nice to read an emotional message from the perspective of a mother in law.
Well written 🙂
How lucky she would be to have you 🙂
Thanks Alok. We need to change to bring a change. Isn’t it?