by January 6, 2015 updated on
‘Hug it out’ means a lot to me and here is hoping that instead of holding yourself guilty for something that wasn’t completely your fault, you might want to do the same!
Just looking at his little face, all dull because of fever and constant sneezing makes me feel so low. Am I the real culprit? Have I been responsible for his state? I should have been more careful. I should have been able to take better care of him.
I bet as parents, we feel this way all the time. We hold ourselves accountable for all that our kids have to go through at some point or the other. The procrastination starts exactly from this very stage and it has no validity period. We blame ourselves right from when the baby is born and it goes on and on. Yes, even when the ‘baby’ is in his/her 50s and we are nearly on our way out, we continue to blame ourselves. Why did they fall sick? Why did they not wash their hands before eating? Why did they not hug me before their bedtime? Why did they not listen to us before deciding on the university? Why did they have to settle down with that man/woman? Why did they make such poor decisions? Why did they not invite us for holidays? Why did they not call to wish us?
By blaming ourselves and living in guilt, we are only making it worse. Instead of keeping quiet and holding ourselves liable, we should rather talk it out. Infact, we must hug it out.
“Dear Son/daughter, I feel that I wasn’t emotionally available for you the other day, I am sorry, here is a hug for I mean it and am truly unhappy for whatever happened.”
Now, how difficult was that?!
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