“Knowledge Of Sex In Our Society Is Still Distorted,” Says Swati Jagdish Of Mayas Amma

This is 2021 – An era when the world, pandemic aside, looks forward to robots taking over our lives. Shuttling between moon and earth is going to be a norm in a few years to come by. But are we, as a society, equipped enough to grow at the same pace? Swati Jagdish asked herself this question when she decided to educate everyone about sexual preferences, safety, and perversion. Swati dons numerous hats – A location counsellor, sex educator, trainee, and much more. But now, we know her primarily as Mayas_amma. Let’s hear it from her about shaping the chariot of the profession to pave the path to her passion. “Sex education is not mere knowledge about sex, it is knowing what not to do rather than what to,” Swati says.

Knowledge about sex - Swati Jagdish

Swati Jagdish aka Mayas Amma:

You are vocal about parents giving sex education to kids. How was your childhood like in that sense?

I always believed that parents should not shy away from discussing sexuality with their children. Not because I grew up in an unconventional household. My rearing was traditional and hence I was unaware of several facts that I educate others about these days. What shaped my sexuality and knowledge about sex is my experiences as well as the reading and learning process once I was pregnant with Maya.

Knowledge about sex - Swati with her husband

How did your perspective evolve?

When I was pregnant with Maya, I started reading about pregnancy. It was like I was handheld into a fantasy world of water birth, natural birth, and a cascade of information fell down on me. My foray into the different birthing techniques took me to the birth village. It was an enlightening experience for me. As fate would have it, I met many like-minded mothers in a Facebook community where I was a part. I was not alone, practically none of them knew about natural birth. That’s when I decided to take it on myself to learn and create awareness.

As I always say, my present self evolved slowly, steadily, and handheld by a bunch of supportive women. When Maya was an infant, I lost my parents. I had to fill the void created by the bereft state of mind. I read and tried to learn, in the process also passed on the information to my fellow mothers.

A friendly meetup to an NGO

My journey practically took off with a get-together of 5-6 mothers at my place when an all-inclusive discussion brought other mothers to us. Inspired by the feedback of our otherwise informal meet-up, the meeting recurred every month as the participation grew leaps and bounds. Further, we conducted breastfeeding campaigns, menstrual cup awareness classes, seminars about natural birth and our initiative soared into the sky, and we registered it as an NGO.

Knowledge about sex - Swati Jagdish

While I was at it, I wanted to be professionally equipped to counsel others. With my experience in training and development, I wanted to explore more. Becoming a lactation counselor was the first step into it. Spending time exchanging thoughts with people whose thoughts were in harmony with mine, landed me at a point of realization that we have little knowledge about sex and sexual preferences. That is where my journey took a detour.

What defines sex education according to you?

When I started the sex education workshops and classes in colleges, the sessions were exclusively for girls.

‘Would it serve the purpose?’ NO!

We insisted on having a combined audience. The request was welcome for many institutions while the others snubbed us. Nonetheless, the results of the former encouraged the others to change their stance, hoping the change to see the light of the day – next year. It’s a revolutionary change. So, if you ask me to define the target audience for sex education, I would say that it should not be limited to one gender only.

My followers used to share their experiences of abuse.

Initially, when I started the page, I used to panic while reading the messages from young boys who thought sex educators are available for sex talks and ‘sexting’. It was a gradual realization that there is a small percentage of people who have a stringent perspective and that won’t change come what may. Their knowledge of sex is unbelievably skewed.

As with the followers, yes, there have been heartbreaking stories; unbelievable and painful glimpses of their lives simultaneously weakened and encouraged me in many ways.

It might sound like an oxymoron but that’s how it was. On one hand, I felt honoured to be counted as someone close with whom they could share their deep and dark secrets. On the other hand, the gravity of what they went through shook me to the core. As the saying goes, sometimes the truth is stranger than fiction.

How do you find time for family, especially Maya in this tight schedule?

I always mindfully set my schedule in such a way that Maya is not missing out on our quality time. Yes, there are days when she did not see me and missed me but that’s the part of the game. I also took deliberate screen-time breaks when I realize that my eye power is going downhill. It is never easy but not impossible also. I believe in gentle parenting that is crafted with a set of boundaries.

Knowledge about sex - Swati with her daughter

Swati Jagdish was a corporate child once. Invested with ideas that she imbibed during and post-pregnancy, she developed an incomparable arena for herself. Today, Mayas Amma is a sensation and so is the face behind the page. She not only spreads the knowledge of sex, and sexual preferences but also is an advocate of gentle parenting. TCT has always tried to identify unique personalities through #RealMoms. Swati would invariably be one of the most unique achievers among them. If you wish to be featured in our Real mom series, fill the sign-up form.

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26 thoughts on ““Knowledge Of Sex In Our Society Is Still Distorted,” Says Swati Jagdish Of Mayas Amma”

  1. Inspiring initiative taken by Swati .Sex education is very important and should not be specific to particular gender only

  2. A well to topic you have picked up swati Yaa i can say even today people are not comfortable raising up this topic .. Kids at teen should and must be educated on time about sex I feel there is nothing wrong in it.

  3. I loved how Swati handled all questions. Sex education isn’t as taboo now as it was before, thanks to open parents like us, but a lot needs to be done at school and college level too.

  4. Sex education is a topic I think should be taken up by every educational institution big or small, in city or village. Swati is doing a fabulous job by educating the young minds.

  5. Sex education and awareness is very important. Swati has taken a really good step in making things easy and smooth.

  6. Inspiring initiative taken by Swati .Sex education is very important and should not be specific to particular gender only

  7. Brilliant initiative taken by Swati .Sex education is important yet difficult to impart. What she is doing is not easy but the kind of expertise she has I am sure she is helping many.

  8. Couldn’t agree more, I have attended one of her Instagram Live sessions and was in awe with her enigma. She is indeed a strong headed woman who paved her own path, while refusing the societal law and patriarchy.

  9. Breaking stereotypes and orthodox thinking can take time but the efforts are truly required and significant. One such topic which requires normalization in our society is sex education. By spreading knowledge of sex and sexual preferences, you’re allowing the new generation to be more informed which is wonderful to say the least.

  10. This is such a wonderful initiative by her. Talking about sex is still considered a taboo. I hope more and more people become inspired by her.

  11. Sex education is something which is really important in our country as there are still so many people who don’t like to talk about it. Really inspiring story you have shared!!

  12. Great to read about Swati’s story and the issue she has picked up is truly commendable. There are many facets to sex education and she seems to be doing a great job. I was especially touched by the fact that people are able to reach out and share their stories in a safe space.

  13. Good to know about Swati’s work. Best wishes to her on the initiative to spread the knowledge about sex to the young people.

  14. This is a great initiative by Swati and I agree with concept when she said that sex education is more about to knowing what not to do rather than what to. I am sure her initiate will help in raising awareness about importance of sex education in our society.

  15. I truly appreciate Swati’s work. sex is still considered a taboo and to openly discussed topic. But people like Swati are there to educate others. I wish her a lot of success..

  16. Still people can’t talk about sex openly..the way you covered about natural birth it’s a huge information and yes withbtime need to reach our kids too…I am blessed with my open minded parents. We really need parents like you guys in our society more and more.

  17. This is great information. It’s very important. It’s must be teach in school or college about Knowledge Of Sex In Our Society Is Still Distorted. Well said and thanks for sharing !!!

  18. This is very true. I myself am not sure yet how I’ll tackle this subject with my daughters when they reach the right age. My parent’s was they typical and we never spoke about it at home as well. Perhaps you could share some light on how to discuss this with kids as well? That would be very helpful!haha

  19. It’s great to talk about these topics. Its not very common that you hear people talking about the taboo topic. We need more such people and blogs👍👍