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Someone once famously said, ‘Childhood is the most beautiful of all life’s seasons.’ As adults, we often dip into our childhood memories to relive moments like the sight of a favorite chocolate, the smell of a much-loved dish, or the tune of a beloved song. Tragically, this is not always the case, especially for those who’ve had their innocence stolen as children under influence of toxic parenting. For them, this cherished phase of life has been a battle for safety and self-respect, flawed child development, and strained parent child relationship. When those memories transform into nightmares, childhood is the last thing survivors of child sexual abuse want to think of. The negative influence of fear, trauma, shame, and violation deeply affects the psychology of the child. The damage inevitably follows them well into adulthood and significantly influences parent child relationship.
According to the Indian National Crime Record Bureau, in 2018 alone approximately 109 children were sexually abused every day. The data revealed a 22% jump in the number of reported cases from the previous year.
To highlight how prevalent this horrifying tragedy has become, to the extent of affecting the parent child relationship with their kids, we speak to three women, who share their experience of sexual abuse as children. By breaking their silence, they send a clear message to parents, children, and caregivers: the vicious cycle of abuse has to stop, and we need to create a parent child relationship with the awareness to identify and fight back abuse at home. We need to make sure that no one tampers the psychology of the child.
Breaking the silence:
While talking to them, it is soon established that each case is unique as the parent child relationship in every single victim’s scenario was seen with a different perspective. The early-on ugly experiences have affected their own parenting styles in a massive way is what we could conclude after a heart-to-heart chat. One of them also revealed that it was a consequence of bad parenting. So, we tried to find out if it was parental negligence or the impact of toxic parenting influenced by our very own unaccommodating society. The experiences of the survivors we’re narrating here can be heartbreaking for the readers. Parent child relationship is also affected by toxic parenting.
Jayshree, former wedding specialist and mother of a 6-year-old boy
Jayshree was born in a close-knit, traditional Iyengar family, where the clusters of houses with unfettered access to all and sundry were common. Children growing up there belonged to everyone in the family. When we live in an extended family, parent child relationship would be formal. As much as she enjoyed the love and affection from her wider family, the abuse she suffered crippled her childhood and teenage years.
The negative influence of the incidents continues to leave its impression on her motherhood. Often, the victims of child abuse know their abusers. These predators live in the close family circles of the child, thereby making it impossible for the victims to complain about the abusers or not comply with their demands. Jayshree’s experience reveals how the formal parent child relationship itself at times renders the victims powerless.
I was so naive to recognize what was happening
He was my father’s brother, and I called him ‘Chithappa’(Uncle). Everyone admired him and religiously followed his every word and advice. At the time, I was a naive eight-year-old girl and was completely oblivious to the fact that this man would put his hands over my shoulder and stealthily touch my breast. When I look back, I wonder what kind of depraved pleasure he got from touching the chest of a little girl.
A year or so later, the abuse escalated when he began to touch my privates, that’s when I realized that something was terribly wrong. Even though I was unaware of ‘good touch’ and ‘bad touch’, I noticed a maniacal glint in his eyes every time I recoiled from his advances. As child abusers often do, which is to threaten and cajole their victims, he tried to convince me that it was a ‘virtuous deed’ and simultaneously warned that if I spoke about it he would hurt my parents. In a manner of speaking, what acted in my ‘favor’ was the image that he had built for himself. He did these things secretly, and was not about to risk damaging his duplicitous façade.’
The day my innocence was stolen
Although my memory of his many misdemeanors is somewhat hazy, this one day will remain permanently etched in my mind. What happened on that fateful day changed everything and scarred me for life. On the pretext of taking me out shopping (at least that’s what he told my parents), he took me to a house he shared with a college girl. In turn, she tried to convince me that whatever he was doing would help me in the future. Thinking about that conversation even now sends a chill down my spine.
Soon, they began to make out, right there in my presence. I was shivering, nauseated, and disgusted but too scared to react. My voice was stuck in my throat and I shrank into a corner until they finished. With an evil grin, he brought me back home.
Little did he know what was in store for him—the things he said and did to coerce me had made me decisive. For the first time, I opened my heart out to an older cousin. Because for some unfathomable reason or due to the flawed parent child relationship we had, I simply could not get myself to speak to my parents. My cousin told me to fight back the next time this uncle tried to touch me, and give him a dose of his own medicine by threatening to tell everyone.
Surprisingly it worked and he was set straight by one tight slap. Later, while the rest of the family noticed how my behavior towards him had completely changed, no one really cared to find out the underlying cause for it. Instead, I was labeled the brash, irreverent, and ill-behaved one. Soon we shifted to Mumbai and my interactions with him ended.
My parents loved me immensely but…
You know, fate has a strange way of playing with our lives. What he did to me at the tender age of 9, continued to have a profoundly negative influence even when I turned 19 and beyond. I became this misandrist and was never comfortable in any relationships. Feelings of inadequacy plagued me. I believed that the moment I reveal ‘my past’ I would lose my friends and people would avoid me.
I just could not bring myself to talk to my parents about it until I was in my 20s, not because of their bad parenting. In hindsight, had I confided in my parents about the abuse when it first occurred, none of this would have happened. Back then, our parent child relationship was always formal. That said, my parenting advice is simple: encourage your kids to talk to you first if someone threatens them or touches them in a bad way.
Today, I realize that if someone judges me because of ‘my past’, that person should be out of my life forever.
– Jayshree
I overprotect my son because of what happened to me. I can’t trust anyone, not even members of my immediate family. Maybe over the years, my fear would fade because I don’t want it to affect our parent child relationship. For now, I keep my son under my watchful eye. The saddest part is that a child is being abused as we speak.
Jayshree believes that she should have told her parents right in the beginning. However, her parent child relationship was different; she grew up in very different times.
Mansi* (name changed on request), preschool teacher, mother of a 17-year-old boy and a 7-year-old girl
The Indian patriarchal family structure conditions girls from a very young age to never question, raise their voices, get angry, or behave badly. Often, being petulant and constantly questioning everything are privileges only male members of the family enjoy. This orthodox structure is severely flawed and affects the parent child relationship, child development and the psychology of the child. It is one of the major reasons for cases of child sexual abuse going unreported and flawing the child development for good. Mansi’s experience is an example of how this toxic parenting and social structure fosters and conceals the acts of the child molester within families. It is also a glaring example of how known abusers are emboldened to repeat their acts when they go unchecked and not called out.
The family unit is usually a safe and happy place for a child. Sadly, in my case it was a space for toxic parenting, gender discrimination, suppressing voices and sexual abuse. I literally grew up as my grandmother’s daughter, because my parents were too busy looking after my brother. I am glad that it did not affect my equation with him. On the contrary, he is my best friend, who actually took a stand against my parents, when they wanted to brush my abuse under the carpet.
Vacations were nightmares
I used to spend summer vacations at my maternal aunt’s home. My working aunt and school-going cousin were never home and so were of little help. Besides, what could a girl, who is the victim of toxic parenting and who was being molested by her own father, do to protect me? Strangely, my aunt’s loathing for her husband was conspicuous, although why she remained in the marriage was incomprehensible to me. He was manipulative, deceptive, and evil. I was in the 4th grade when he started touching me in ways that made me uncomfortable. He would call me to the bedroom on the pretext of bringing water or a towel so that he could touch me and force me to feel him. It repulsed me to the core. While this happened, I couldn’t utter a word to anyone because I was terrified and lacked the confidence to speak out.
I never saw my mother or aunt stand up to their husbands, which only reinforced my mistaken notion that girls should not speak up for themselves. The abuse went on for years despite my mentioning it to my grandmother, albeit subtly. I couldn’t be explicit with her because howsoever she loved me, my flawed parent child relationship made me underconfident. Since he helped the family financially, grandma and the other members of the household were scared of infuriating him. However, when on one visit when my brother asked why this man would call me so often to the bedroom, he was banned from future vacation visits. Eventually, my ordeal ended when this despicable man relocated abroad.
When toxic parent child relationship catalyze abuse
My parents unfortunately weren’t my confidants. On the other hand, their style was a classic case of toxic parenting that deters the psychology of the child. In my opinion, a healthy parent child relationship in our family was for the boys. I was right because when years later they found out about the abuse, they advised me to let bygones be bygones. Moreover, they urged that I maintain cordial family relations, and never speak about this again. Parent child relationship is a must in every family.
Like a serpent, the memories would slither out of a corner of my mind and leave me numb. That man went on to abuse many more girls and women, including his own daughter. I often feel that had I been confident and if my parents were supportive, this would never have happened to all those other girls. Today, he is no more to hurt me or any other girl but he left irreversible damage in my soul.
Deep within, the scars that he has left behind are still fresh. I am an anxious and overprotective mother because I do not want my kids to go through what I experienced. In the process, I often wonder if I subjected them to bad parenting, and scarred our parent child relationship as well.
Parents should build confidence in kids, so that they don’t hesitate to talk to you about anything.
– Mansi
While talking to me, Mansi said that once her son (now 17) asked her why she would get so worked up about sending him out anywhere. That’s when she realized that she has not healed completely—there is always a lurking fear of the worst. Victims of child sexual abuse carry deep scars, and the wound remains raw for years which in turn affects their parent child relationship.
Vinitha, early childhood educator, mother of an 11-years-old boy and a 6-years-old girl
Often the onus to not provoke sexual urges of males depends on the females in the family. The immediate fallout of this flawed thinking is that the victim is branded as “unclean” if she is sexually violated by a man. This practice has been used as a toxic parenting mechanism to control and prevent victims from sharing their experiences. According to Vinitha, the trauma of sexual abuse leads to low self-esteem and distrust and has a negative influence on child development. Discovering that sexual abuse in children has been the generational pattern in her family, spurred her to embark on a journey of raising awareness about the issue.
When I was young, abuse was common; it was all around. I hail from an affluent family where domestic staff took care of everything and had unrestricted access to our home. Growing up witnessing exhibitionism from them, I believed that exposing one’s intimate parts as normal. making me a victim of toxic parenting.
Men are like that, so you should take care
As kids, we were told that men are incapable of controlling their sexual fantasies. Hence, it was the woman’s job not to invite their unwanted attention; Wives dressed up and took care of themselves to ensure that their husbands don’t stray; It would be shameful if society came to know that a man ‘wronged’ a woman because that would make her unclean. Growing up, my family instilled this twisted logic in my sisters and me. As a result, when the abuse occurred, I thought that I am filthy and was scared and ashamed to speak up. But when I did, the unbelievable happened and I realized how toxic parenting could damage me.
A car ride that changed my life
It was Christmas day and we were on the way to my grandparents’ house for a family reunion. In those days, family trips meant jam-packed cars with the kids stacked on the adults’ lap. My uncle volunteered to have me on his lap. No one in the car paid heed to my wriggling and protests. I was relieved when we reached the house, but the worst was yet to come. On the way back, I was once again placed on his lap and this time he put his hands inside my panties. Terrified of what happened, I screamed and that grabbed everyone’s attention, finally.
My word against his
In my own way, I told them that he touched my private parts, but he made it out to be an attempt to find a picture that I had stolen—I had taken a picture of Mother Mary from the house and kept it inside my dress.
Everyone scolded me for falsely accusing him to cover my ‘robbery’. I was around seven-years-old and he was a reputed medical professional. They chose to believe him and my father beat me black and blue. None of the adults stopped to question why he put his hands inside a little girl’s panties. Or did they simply choose to ignore it? Parent child relationship becomes a joke when parents are seen to be taking sides with the abusers.
That was it. I never spoke up for myself again and endured his abuse for years thereafter. Who could I possibly tell when even my own mother thought that I was lying? Our parent child relationship deteriorated to a point that I had to be my sisters’ parent. Sometimes when I tried to act as a shield by complying with him to protect my little sisters. Unfortunately, that too did not help because he still succeeded in abusing them as well. I recall instances when his wife, (my aunt) barged into the room, saw what was happening, and walked away.
Recuperating took years
I lost my self-esteem for years. It affected my relationships because the thought that I was ‘dirty’ had been ingrained in me. That’s when I started following Oprah Winfrey. When she shared her experiences, I felt like she was talking to me.
All this while, my uncle became bolder because he was never caught. Years later, he raped a woman and she lodged a complaint. I stood by her as a witness, but somehow everyone coerced her into withdrawing the complaint. Everyone asked me to forgive him because our religion said so. I ask: Which God would ask a victim to forgive her rapist? In the end, the argument that ‘Our reputation would be tarnished’, was used to suppress the case.
If you are concerned about your reputation, you should check your conduct.
Vinitha
When the past haunts the present
The impact that this experience has had on my psyche is horrendous. To my horror, I also learned that this systematic abuse has been a norm for generations in my family. My mother is a victim too, but my sisters and I decided to break the cycle. Finally, we decided not to tolerate the abuse and cut off all ties with the extended family.
Many years later, I succumbed to anxiety and depression. I realized how far it affected me when I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. When I realized that the damage was worse than I expected, I sought help. It changed my life like never before. I could raise my kids with more confidence. My daughter is a fierce tigress and reacts intensely if she doesn’t like anything. I made sure I instilled the right values. Parent child relationship is like a strong bond everyone should have in life.
You might be well-intentioned but if a child does not like how you behave with him or her, stay away.
– Vinitha
Vinitha did the right thing by seeking help. It helped her in healing the scars despite the lack of family support. In turn, she has assisted several families to fight child sexual abuse and taught them how to cope with the trauma that follows. None of this would have been possible if she hadn’t taken the right decision. With help, she was able to improve parent child relationship with her children. Prioritizing mental health can strengthen your parenting skills. Parent child relationship is very important.
Are our kids safe?
As informed parents, we have to build a positive parent child relationship and train our children to recognize abuse. Create a safe space for them to voice their concerns and encourage them to confide in you. Raise confident and fearless children with positive parenting skills.
Follow these practices unfailingly
- Talk to your children
- Educate them about good touch and bad touch
- Follow the five finger rule
- Don’t force them to hug or kiss friends or relatives
- Avoid situations where you have to leave them alone with anyone
- If you suspect something isn’t right, don’t hesitate to consult a psychologist if necessary.
- Most importantly don’t hesitate to report abuse because maybe you can save another girl with a phone call.
- Have a strong Parent child Relationship
However, in the process of protecting our kids, try not to stifle them with excessive restrictions, rules, and your own fears and insecurities. Instead, let them bloom and grow, confident in the knowledge that you are by their side, no matter what. Build parent child relationship based on confidence, love, and transparency.
Article by : Rakhi Jayashankar and Sharanya Munsi
Featured Model (images 5,7,9) : Arti Shukla
I really enjoyed reading this article. Though I am Latin American, this still hits home, the fact that girls are discouraged from speaking up against abuse. My heart goes out to all victims, may they find peace and healing.
Much needed topic touched my daughter is 3 yrs and at 2.5 yrs I started teaching her wht is gud touch and bad touch ,who are strangers,also who can touch your private parts and if someone touches she has to straight inform me,a parent child relationship is so very important in today’s world where both parents are working
This is a very beautifully written article. Just loved it.
Sad reality of our society. But I never thought of the underlying cause i.e toxic parent child relationship until now. Thanks for this reminder.
Such a burning and shameful situation of our society. While as parents we try our level best to provide heaven to our kids, there exist monsters amongst us in disguise to show those innocent buds hell. Very valuable article.
It’s time to come in front and talk about it freely…what a powe6 writing that was…I really got goosebumps..very sensitive but avoided ..
Beautiful article. I loved reading it so much..!! Thanks for sharing..!!
These are really poignant accounts that touch the core of the heart. Childhood is such a vulnerable period, and traumas leave you scarred for life.
It’s a really sencitive issue take a lots of guds to point out these things have to say girl you’re doing really good job and also keep going bbs
It’s a really sencitive issue take a lots of guds to point out these things have to say girl you’re doing really good job
It is worth the read.👍🏻 Got a different perspective all together about the issue👍🏻
This is so amazing and Inspiring 💜
You have written this article amazingly. I mean I’m numb after reading reading this. Every parent should read this article.
My heart goes out to those who suffered child abuse and had a bad experience. One of my friend’s kid also faced this but luckily we saved her and now she knows the difference between good and bad touches.
Reading this article made me teary eyed agree with youwe have to teach our children about good touch bad touch, report abuse immediately
It’s a valuable article. Yes, one should open their mouths to complaint against the abuse happened in childhood. Basically, close relatives do these with the children, not only with girls but boys also. Anyway salute to the brave hearts for raising voices against this.
This post made me feel the dilemma each child goes in the tender age and that impacts the entire life. Making kids understand that their parents won’t judge them in any scenario can lead to better relationship, yet this is sometimes hard to follow. Being over protective parents is also not going to help our child. As a parent I try to calm and listen to each story child narrates.
My heart aches to read the atrocities that the victims had to suffer and how it affected them mentally and emotionally…. we as parents have a rule to 1. always keep kids with us and close to us all the time. 2. Believe in our child over anyone else.
This article has given me really goosebumps this is sad reality of society and we must understand the sensitivity of child abuse and must protect our kids specially we should trust are kids
This sent chills down my spine. A mother of two and i still wish i didn’t had kids just fir this one reason. The world is so cruel. My heart goes out to all those who have suffered. If only i could protect my kids by keeping them in s bubble right under my eyes😔. I get peace thinking there is a higher court where judgements will be fair and punishments severe.
I feel really sad for such kids. Your post was a complete eye opener
Being a mother , I would like to say that we have to talk to our kids , what kind of surrounding they wants. If they feel uncomfortable in any situation we should ask them and support them..i am still seeing to people . they hesitate to talk to their child about child abuse ,and the reason…few culprits are from our family and dear one…my words can be harsh but it’s a realty .I appreciate you rakhi…you write and talk about on this…
Amazing this is good to talk about thanks
This is devastating yet I know all this is true as I have come across many such girls myself. I am glad you chose to write on them
Absolutely right that we have to build a positive parent child relationship and train our children to recognize abuse.
So true, this is such a sensitive issue which needs to be addressed as a priority. It is important that parents speak about this issue with their kids n make them aware of such situations and the probable responses. This will enable the kids to protect themselves…..👌👌👍❤️
This article is really amazing. I loved the way you expressed it and thank you for talking about this. You’re an inspiration for many and iam glad to read all the comments and how people spoke about their experiences. You’re doing a great job.
This is such a sensitive topic and after reading the experience of these women I am falling short in words to express my emotions. it is really sad reality of our so called modern society where these kind of incidences happened frequently. as a parent, I feel teaching our kids about body safety and making an open communication with them is key to protect them.
It gave me goosebumps when i read this article. It’s such a sensitive topic thank you for bringing out and sharing the story and bringing the awareness of such gruesome act and encouraging the victims to speak up.
This is much needed for this generation… Everyone have to read it….
Very tender and major topic childcare. You have written in very encouraging words.
Very well written and such awaring topic is much needed to get info about child abuse
Very well written article . It is the most important thing that we have to maintain very good relationship with kids . So that they feel comfortable .
This Article is really valuable for today’s world!! It was worth reading !!
Wow this article have me goosebumps . It’s so important to understand these things so that everyone around us is safe
Its a great article for spreading awareness..!!
Child abuse must be stopped.
This is a sensitive issue which needs to stop everywhere
This article is very impressive, really inspiring and valuable at the same time! Today’s world is very cruel unfortunately! Child abuse is one of the very serious topics today! Thank you for sharing an amazing article to read and think about!
Really a very nice article..very sensitive..thanks for putting up this.. great job👏.. your all articles are very amazing..just waiting for your next article.. keep sharing
These nightmarish tales are the real stories, reading this was sending chill waves to my spine. I am speechless, but not to mention these warriors are very brave.
Mwhat happen is in our childhood no one can forget . Thanks for bringing this up we really need to take this seriously
This is so important tha we gave immediate attention to this kind of matter because what happen is in our childhood no one can forget . Thanks for bringing this up
This is so important tha we gave immediate attention to this kind of matter because what happen is in our childhood no one can forget .
This is so well written, this makes me realize how important it is to report abuse and show love to our kids.
Talking to the child and explaining to him what is right and what is wrong is really important . The article is so beautiful . Got me all emotional 🥺
Reading this article gave me goosebumps but I know we cannot deny any of these. It is scary but we as a society should speak up against it. Now a days kids are aware about good touch and bad touch thanks to schools but every parent should be vigilant and should be able talk to kids freely on anything and everything. Speak up is what is needed.
Just reading the whole article made me teary eyed! I am really thankful to my parents for never letting me stay alone with any male member of the family.
I remember asking them questions as to why I shouldn’t stay alone at home with my cousin brother. Now, I understand the reason.
Good touch and bad touch should be taught to children at the age from their formative years! And most importantly an open talk with your children is a must. You never know who is having those vile thoughts about your kid!
This article is worth reading. It is important to have a beautiful bond with children
This article is worth reading. It is important to have a beautiful relationship with kids,
It’s never easy to bring a child to this world and protect him/her from such cheap minded people. But, all we can do is talk to the child at a young age and teach them what is right and wrong touch. And that they should immediately voice it out. I really hope people who abuse children or adults be hanged.
You have written the stories beautifully.
I literally have goosebumps after reading this, these culprits are no less than the devil, how come anyone even imagines this, God! Child abuse is something which should be more spoken about and children should know about this, as per me there is also a problem in our education system where we teach children ear, eye, nose but God knows why to ignore to tell them about vagina and penis which is also an important body part. We have to speak about it. Such a knowledgable article.
Being a teacher, i have done courses regarding this issue so i can support my kids emotionally who go thru such horrific experiences. Breaks my heart. Its so important to know how to mend relationships for these kids
Yes it’s so true that whatever fear we have in parents we don’t have to show to our kids .
This is so inspiring and much needed.. thank you for spreading awareness and definitely beautifully written.👍🏻
This article written by so much effort and time…. You doing so great work… Keep it up
This article is so inspiring and worth reading and sharing.. it is very important to have a beautiful relationship with kids and it is must to understand them
This is written so intensly the way it should be. It is one of the major problems. And when you are a parent this is also one of the worries in your mind. It is a nightmare to the parents too. All the points that you have given should be followed by the parents so that the kid knows that we as parents are always there for them
This article is really amazing and worth reading..Beautifully written
U ARE TRUE INSPIRATION..reading this blog was totally worthit …..Op @RJ❤❤…At some point i felt depressed while reading tis..
More Power to all those who suffered but wish in future they dont have to suffer from this pain…U ARE TRUE INSPIRATION..reading this blog was totally worth.. it …..Op @RJ❤❤
Its so so saddening to read the experiences they had as kids. I understand them. Its not easy to come out n say it openly. Parents should play such a vital role in helping kids. But the generation now is much more informed. Yet these incidents keep happening. I do feel worried for our kids. Always praying that every child stays safe and wish that they have the guts to point out the tormentor.
I had a couple of episodes of molestation when I was younger but I’m glad it wasn’t something that traumatized me as it was a one time thing. But when it’s in the family, it’s a horrible feeling for sure because you have to face the person while he’s taking undue advantage of his position. Even I have a watchful eye on my kids especially due to what I went through.
Amazingly written thanks alot♡
Oh it aches in my heart to know such henious thing a human cando to another .. thanks for bringing this informative video.. hope this comes to an end.. n kids feel more safe in today’s world
Nice article! Really sensitive! 🙂
This is such an important topic to raise awareness of!! The more we talk about it the less stigma will be attached to victims. It’s really important to know that sexual abuse can happen to children and how to help the children not be victims of it
Very well written. I strongly agree with you.
The article is really valuable and worth reading. This is must read. It is so important to spread about awareness about it. I will definitely share this article.
Every parent should know how to ptotect their children from such abuses.
I am now more alert.
This is really a fact that every parent should know to ptotect their children from such abuses.
The article is worth reading. It is so important to be aware about it. Definitely I am gonna share this article.
This article is really very valuable , inspiring and worth reading 💫 In today’s world it’s very important to keep a good relationship with your children in terms of mental social and all aspects
Such and important topic .. and how beautifully U have explained and it’s actually worth reading .. everyone should read this … most important I actually ask myself.. is my son safe today?
This article is really Inspiring and valuable for today’s world! Thanks for this amazing post dear👏🏻👏🏻
Such an important and sensitive topic you have chosen and shared. It is extremely important to have a loving relationship with your child wherein they don’t fear to share anything with you
One of my friend’s have been a victim of child abuse by her own parents. I have seen her fight,the trauma and pain she went through and i have been her constant support..This is a must read article for all of us and as the last point says we should talk about it and report it when needed
This is a much needed article looking at the current scenario of events, where every other day the newspaper/ internet/ social medias are filled with such news! Hats off to the writer, I am definitely going to share this…👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
A very needful effort put into the article. This society need more of them. Let’s all keep the stigma out of it and think for our coming generations 👍👍
Thanks for highlighting such a sensitive topic. It was very valuable worth reading this…
This is a very sensitive topic and I am glad sex education in school are helping a lot for the kids
A worth reading this. we feel blessed when we never faced such things but other side of reality is so cruel 🙊 more Power to all those who suffered but wish in future no one suffer from this pain 😞 I am a pre school teacher and we started those things of bad touch and good touch from their base of the knowledge and it’s a very important part to teach 🥺 thanks for sharing now will share forward too
Ohhh my god…this gave goosebumps 🔥…while reading
A good read.Especially In today’s circumstances, this post is a must read.
It’s very sad and so touchy to here and live a such trauma … but yet its more important it’s coming out to the real word more now and parents and kids are more aware of it. Thank you for this important article.
Your article was worth reading! Thanks for touching on the topic!!
It was worth reading. Thanks bringing up such topics.
Wo bachpan k din fir se yad aa gye…Kuch zakham the ho aaj fir se hare ho gye😔😥
You made me cry with this write-up, in our society 8 out 10 girls suffered with this painful and scary memory. But I’m not like my parents who don’t wanna listen or cant understand what going thru with their kid 😒 I made myself a brave fearless flesh and soul. Now I’m raising a fearless baby girl like tigress. We can’t change our past but we can make our kids future and present fearless. 👏👏👏 Claps for your hard work dear
This article is worth reading n sharing..we should our relationship with sharing everything with our child..thanks rakhi fotlr putting up this
Such a thoughtful article, must read for everyone, real story, beautifully written it’s a very sensitive but to be talked about topic, parent child relationship should be such that it does not affect the freedom of child yet they should be confident about parents support if any situation such as the above stories arises, thanks for sharing 👍
This is one of the best articles I read so far….the issue brought forward is indeed extremely important…and inspiring. Thank you really for putting out this amazingly written article. Great job really♥
I am a victim too and I was always terrified whenever any man came near me. My cousins, my uncle, extended family cousins were all around us. It was difficult to communicate with our parents at that time. I took refuge in books and lived in a fantasy world. I puked the first time my fiancee then-husband kissed me. Same on my wedding night. It took me months to accept his touch. But then it made me aware and I wanted to protect my kids. 30 years ago I taught good touch and bad touch to my daughter and my son. I was a meek girl but moulded my daughter to be a tigresss and thats what she is.
Thanks for sharing your experience. We intended to urge survivors to share their story without hesitation. More power to you❤
Beautifully written!!! Such a powerful article!
Beautifully written!!! Informative and valuable especially in today’s world
This article has such a strong impact. Im sure any one who reads this will realize the importance of being the biggest
support to our children. Beautifully written .
A real good article about which awareness is needed and valuable… Will surely share it..
This article is worth reading, especially in today’s world. It is important to have a beautiful relationship with kids, not in terms of money, but in terms of love and support.
This article is really Inspiring and valuable for today’s world! Thanks for this amazing post,I’m gonna share this on my twitter,much needed 🌸