After 20 years of my marriage, of hopelessly hoping that one day I shall become a mother, 20-long years of deep anxiety, frustration and often grief and sorrow about the (un)ability to have child, I finally conceived! I was 44, and the way I learned about my pregnancy or the first sign of pregnancy symptom wasn’t melodramatic. I still remember, my husband was Ubering to work at 9:00 AM in the morning, and he got a call from a frantic crazy wife of his who revealed the good news to him in half-excited-semi-half-scared-and-semi-half-not believing tone. The same woman was often seen shattered, asking other women, “How to get pregnant? or What should I do to get pregnant? Give me a solution” And there she was, right there, standing in her bathroom, having recently taken a pregnancy test. With two pink lines sitting right in front of her, she picked up the phone, teary-eyed, and called her husband and said the words she ever dreamt of “Love, I am pregnant!“.
So, for all those women out there who are losing hope, every passing year, there’s only one thing I can say, “don’t lose it.” The decline in fertility over the course of a woman’s 30s is overrated. While I was trying, I also read a journal that suggested, “A woman’s chance of pregnancy was 20 percent each month at age 30, dwindling to 5 percent by age 40.” But, trust me, the reason why I’m putting it all out here is for you to know that if I could conceive at 44 and have a healthy baby at 45, then you can do it too.
So, if you’ve made the decision to have a baby, and finding it difficult to conceive. If your Google search is packed with questions such as, “how to get pregnant fast?”, or how to become pregnant?” Then you must read on…
If you’re anxious to get pregnant, just follow these 10 tips for women who are trying to conceive. There are a few steps you can take to make “trying” more effective.
Your answers to, “How To Get Pregnant Fast and Easy?”
1. Record menstrual cycle frequency
Keep close tabs of your menstrual cycle. Monitor whether the two consecutive cycles are exactly 30-31 days first day apart (as in – the first day of your periods tend to come the same number of days apart every month?), if yes- it’s a regular cycle. That maybe good news. However, if our periods may be irregular, as in lengths vary from month to month, then you must track it. This will help you find your exact ovulation date.
2. Monitor ovulation
The ovulation date is when your ovaries will release an egg. This happens on a monthly basis. According to a study, a woman’s egg is meant to stay fertile for 12 to 24 hours after it is released. A man’s sperm can survive in a woman’s body for up to five days. Women with regular cycles ovulate anywhere between 11th to 16th days from the first day of her last periods. Meaning about two weeks before the arrival of her next periods. Example:
Your last periods came on the 1st of March and your menstrual cycle is regular, then, ideally, you will be ovulating anytime between the 14th and the 16th of March. It’s harder to predict ovulation in women with irregular cycles.
There are brands with ovulation-prediction kits that can come handy if you are not sure. Also, a lot of women say that they experience certain symptoms on their ovulation day. e.g. body temperature is a bit high, and there are mood swings. One other way to self-assess your ovulation date is by checking your cervical mucus. It is slippery, almost thread-like. All thanks to luteinizing hormone, whose levels are super high during ovulation.
3. Make the most of the ‘fertile window’
The “fertile window” = 5 days prior to ovulation and that very day.
I have also believed that the old wives’ tales about conception, especially related to the position influence a couple’s chances of having a baby, e.g. a woman lying on her back for a certain amount of time after intercourse increase the odds of conceiving.
4. Aim for a healthy body weight
If you are overweight and trying to conceive, then remember one thing, it won’t help. Women with abnormal BMIs and weight issues have 2x times reduced chances to get pregnant.
Excess production of estrogen is seen in women with weight on the higher side of the spectrum. Excessive estrogen interferes with ovulation. Therefore, eat healthy and shed a few kilos to increase your probability of natural conception.
5. Take a prenatal vitamin
A prenatal vitamin is as important for pregnant women as-is for those who are trying to get pregnant. Please consult your gynecologist before getting started on this.
The daily prenatal vitamin intake should definitely include Folic acid which happens to be a type of vitamin-B that’s critical for the prevention of birth defects in a baby’s brain and spine
6. Take a break from a strenuous workout
A lot of studies and my own gynecologist revealed that menstrual disturbances and impacted ovulation are inter-related. is often seen commonly in women who exercise heavily, and a lot of times these women need to cut back on their workouts if they want to become pregnant, Pavone told Live Science.
7. Say no to smoking and drinking
Nicotine and carbon monoxide found in cigarettes can be blamed for the delay in pregnancy. These chemicals are found to result in the loss rate of a woman’s eggs. Well, a study suggests that, smoking ages a woman’s ovaries and results in poor quality eggs. Passive smoking is no good either. Alcohol also has similar effects.
It’s safest for a woman to avoid alcohol when she is hoping to become pregnant. A woman should also stop consuming alcohol if she stops using birth control because she wants to get pregnant.
8. Infertility Evalutaion
After having tried for many years, we also tried IVF treatments which failed, but such treatments have always worked for a lot of couples I have known. It is therefore critical to opt for infertility evaluation if you are 35 years of age and have tried everything possible for natural conception.