Parenting Tips For Raising Teenagers – How To Connect With Your Adolescent

Either we have experienced ourselves or we have witnessed the challenges of teenage parenting. In today’s social environment, adolescents are bombarded with all kind of information. Their struggle is not limited to their hormonal changes or career expectations. Every day’s peer pressure, information bombardment from social media, TV and the internet are a part of their struggle. In such conditions, today’s parents are finding it difficult to stay connected with their kids now and then. Here are some vital parenting tips for raising teenagers that can help parents to connect with their  children.parenting tips for raising teenagers

Two parenting tips for raising teenagers:

1. Emphasise on your child’s interests

Many times it has been witnessed that parents do confront their adolescent on unfamiliar interests (computer games, music, friends). But either they end up criticising or simply ignoring, treating it as one more difference that is setting them apart.

Instead, parents could choose to bridge the difference by asking the adolescent if he /she could help them to love and appreciate the music they are listening. Can they can teach them how they can play the computer game?

Now, not only does the difference become a vehicle for connection, but it does so in an esteem-filling way for an adolescent.parenting tips for raising teenagers

2. Try to avoid generalisation while having discussions with your teenager

At times when parents need to address some issues and concerns with their adolescents, these discussions end up into arguments and emotional outbursts. Remember selection of the right language is the key to make these discussions fruitful and effective for the teenager.

Generally, what happens during a parent and teenager discussions is that the parent tends to use abstract terms like ‘you are irresponsible ’, ‘you are careless’, ‘you are inconsiderate’, etc. These terms come from the parent’s frustration and emotional pain and more than doing good. These terms insult the teenager and make them more defensive.

Instead, parents can state their complaint by objectively describing their cause of concern. Like, “we need to talk, how you will keep yourself safe if you want to attend the party. Every parent in the city today concerned about his/her child’s safety from drugs and criminals, and we are no exception”.

parenting tips for raising teenagers

By Shivani Misri Sadhoo, a psychologist based in Delhi. She is a certified relationship counselor with specialized training and experience in the field of marital problems, relationship difficulties, child and adolescent issues, stress and anxiety. 

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Hope these parenting tips for raising teenagers help you connect with you child and understand them better.

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