During my pregnancy, I was being cautious. Almost too cautious. And while trying to be careful throughout that phase, I could give very little emphasis to the bond I shared with my husband. And after I became a mother, things went from being bad to worse. As a mother’s bond with a child grows, it’s likely that her other relationships begin to deteriorate. And this is what happened to us…
Why marriages change after the baby arrives:
According to research, having children affects a marriage. The relationship between spouses suffers once kids come along. When comparing couples with and without children, researchers found that the rate of the decline in relationship satisfaction is nearly twice as steep for couples who have children than for childless couples.
An addition to the number of the members of the family changes the entire dynamics of our existing lives. So much so that the overall tempo and tone of the house seems to change completely. Parents often become more distant with each other as they get busy attending to the day-to-day details of parenting. From figuring out ways to feed the newborn, cleaning his poops to taking care of laundry, making enough money to pay the bills, and planning for the future – everything takes up a lot of our mental space. In the effort to keep the family running smoothly, parents discuss pick and drops, and monthly expenses, instead of what’s the latest in each other’s lives.
Of all the things I regret, one that I regret the most is giving up leading a normal ‘wife-y’ life. Here is a list of things my husband and I stopped doing right after becoming parents. I am sharing it with you so you don’t make the same mistakes we made. Continue Reading..
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