Meet Prisha Lalwani – A Real Mom’s Story on Fixing Yourself First


In our Real Moms- Real Stories column, Meet a strong-headed mom of twin boys who doesn’t compromise. Read on to know her story on fixing and managing, somehow!

I am the daughter of a skilled businessman, and a talented mother. Oldest among the 3 siblings, I’m a strong headed lady who does no compromises. I am a mother of twin boys (age 5+) that somehow make me feel I was destined for this phenomenal roller coaster ride! My husband is my power and my weakness, I am nothing without his love & support.

Real Moms Story 41How do you plan your day? How does your day span out?

Contrary to most family structures, my husband is the one who wakes the rest 3 of us. We somehow slog and wake up at about 6:30 AM and then school and office preps begin. They all leave by 8ish and then I start my day with breakfast and tea, and my laptop and headphones. I work from home part time. I am a full-time blogger and invest most of my day’s work in my blog. I take freelance work from home opportunities in between. Work at home mom = no work hours. I usually think about a quick to-do before I sleep. So, when 8 AM happens, I quickly get on to it. My kids usually come back late afternoon. I look after them and wanting to be with them is one of the reasons why I never looked for a full-time work opportunity. I have a helper for the most parts of the day so its better when she is around. Real Moms Story 42

What do you think about our Indian education system? If you were to introduce something or change something about it, what would that be?

One of my sons is moving in the direction of Sensory Processing Disorder. He is very bright cognitively and seems to be “smarter” than most of his peers. But he faces difficulties with other every day activities like interacting or narrating what happened or what’s bothering him. That is a major challenge pertaining to how our educational system works. Real Moms Story 43

We do not have a yardstick of normal – we cannot have a single methodology to treat all kinds of children because all children are unique and have varying strengths. If we could, I wish we could make various kind of school patterns yet affordable to the common man. 

What would you say is your key to juggling and creating a balance with your work and kids?

The key to juggling between work and kids is to set your priorities right. We mostly have a choice. I’m blessed to have worked with clients who understand a mom’s life and have excused me if I have had a delay. That ways I’m always focussed on how my child is doing. I cannot leave a wailing child to finish a deadline. 

On the other hand, I try my best to never delay work or miss deadlines, so that someday if I really have to miss, the client would understand. 

What is the most challenging part of being a mother? Have you managed to? overcome it? If so, how?

Raising twins is the most challenging part. I feel so overwhelmed most of the days, I sometimes feel like want to run away. So, I run away to the living room as I let them sit in the bedroom. That’s only as far as I can run from them. Every day there is a new problem and a new coping strategy. I just tell myself that some days are far more difficult and on the tough days, just sail through it…Slowly, keeping in mind that this is temporary. That’s my ultimate coping mechanism – do what it takes to fix yourself, and no matter how hot the soup, it gets better.

How do you spend time with your kids on weekends? Share your best family moments.

We usually go out on weekends. So, a grocery store visit is promised on every Sunday and they can buy one item of their choice. We often engage in games and play as a family on weekends. We often also have our meals together. I usually try to make a dessert, jelly being their favourite and the whole family enjoys it together. On a daily basis, my kids like to tell me about their day just when I put them to bed, so I put them to bed 10-15 minutes early so I can listen to their stories and ask them questions about their well-being. Real Moms Story 44

Everyone loves personal time but I’m a workaholic – even when I have time for myself, I barely know what to do with it. Recently, I have managed to sneak out on some days with my friends, some days I just lie down, eat chocolate and watch whatever I want to. On an everyday basis, I give myself Netflix time during lunch and at the time of dinner.

What tips would you like to give to new moms/moms with teenagers at home/ moms with pre-schoolers at home?

Moms of twins:

Dear Moms of twins, truth be told, it is never going to get EASY! Don’t believe people who give you the 2-year threshold that once they are 2 years old it is fine… no, it’s not!

It does get a bit manageable starting 3.5 years. Some kids (like mine) hit that stage at 4.5-5 years. But it does get manageable. But then newer things will begin to happen. They will learn to say I don’t love you and it will cut like hell. But remember we are moms, we are bound to be strong and rigid and we have to shape them up better for their life ahead. When they say mean things, they don’t really mean it. Enjoy every moment of life you have, because they grow up so soon!!

I am a friendly mom who can really kick some bum. My kids know that. I am their comfort zone and the one with the power to get things done with one stare. Well – on most days!! They also know how to work around me and sometimes I have to introduce their father in the equation to build in some threat. Lol, we manage somehow.

Any special parenting tips that have worked for you or those which were advised to you but didn’t work?

I got advices by the kilo. But I chose to use my instinct over lame advices. In these 6 years of parenting I have learnt:

1. That there is no one way of parenting. There are many ways and it is all correct

2. The first person who needs to be fixed is You-yourself. If you are doing well, the whole family will do well. So, do whatever it takes and fix yourself – fix yourself when you are hurt, fix your pain, fix your stress, fix your aches – fix it

3. Be polite to another parent, even when joking. You have no idea what they are going through. Everyone’s problems are titanicReal Moms Story 45

If there was any one thing you could change about you at this point in life, what would that be?

My weight, otherwise, I feel pretty awesome lol

 

 

About Powerful stories from Real Moms. Real Stories: This section on The Champa Tree caters to stories of real moms. This is a platform for all mothers to share their stories and in turn inspire each other to take a step ahead in life. Parenting being the center of discussion in this section, everyday struggles can be dealt with by reading each other’s experiences with their little ones. If you would like your story to be read, and heard, write to us at thechampatree.in@gmail.com

 

 

Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

You might also like:

Advertisements

Share your views

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.